food for thought: a day to recharge

In-n-out

I rarely take breaks. The old adage “I’ll sleep when I’m dead” is rings verrrry near and dear to my heart. However, Tuesday night I was wiped. Like nothing sounded more appealing than sleeping all of Wednesday. My body was like:

Nat, you’ve been go go go since before Thanksgiving and you need a break. I’m tired. No, really, I’M LE TIRED.

Okkk okkk, I’ll sleep in and relax…

And let me tell you, it was hard to do! Around 10am I was responding to a text thread and my friend text yelled at me:

Why aren’t you actually sleeping in?

SLEEP

Fine. Yes. I just needed ‘to be’ knowing that my body and mind needed rest. My mind was naturally harder to turn quiet, I am VERY good at forming to-do lists. But I gave myself permission (with the help of friend’s permission) to let the ‘to-dos’ wait. That way I could attack the list from a charged state. No a semi-charged (charmed šŸ˜‰ ) one.

Taking those few more hours to stay in bed was fantastic. I didn’t sleep the entire time, but read and didn’t give a flying duck about doing work. And you know what? The world still turned, I still got an audition for the following day, and allowed the uneasiness of not doing anything slowly melt away.

Moving forward, I am going to give myself ONE FULL DAY to recharge. Just sleep, read, go to bed at an earlier than normal hour, check my phone less, and do something crafty. Whether that’s doodling, making a vision board, coloring, knitting, playing with play dough- it helped get me out of my diligent left brain and enjoy the moment a whole lot more.

Now, I give YOU permission. Take a full day off. And if you can’t give yourself a full day, try a few more hours in bed or read the book on your nightstand, or whatever. But forget about things *in a healthy way* for a few hours so you come back to those tasks ready to GO. Promise you’ll be in more of a flow.

Have a fantastic weekend.

Cheers!

NP

holiday small talk

Things I love about the holidays:

  1. The food
  2. The booze
  3. The decorations
  4. The gifting
  5. The days where your fuzzy socks/pjs stay on all day
  6. The carols
  7. The friends and family I don’t see often enough

Things I dislike about the holidays:

  1. Catching up with certain friends/friends of friends/family and navigating how to present my life as a creative freelancers who acts, makes wine videos and writes a blog. It can be toughhhhhhhh.

As someone without the “normal” 9 to 5 who can highlight a promotion or change of departments etc. as success (although, luckily, there are lots of creative freelancers emergingĀ at the moment) it can be seemingly difficult to explain what I do or even how I’ve grown. So what do you do??

Me: Grabs a glass of wine, throws on a smile and makes a b-line for awkward convos first so I can settle back with close family for the rest of the night.

Me to Me: Takes a bottle of wine, fat plate of apps and sits by the fire. Tells it my all secrets and avoids people at all costs.

Sooooo you don’t have to do either extreme- take to the “difficult” ones first, or hide. But here are a few things I’ve found helpful:

create your elevator pitch

I know I know, but it makes it a hell of a lot easier if you make a little semi-rehearsed speech. Bonus points for embellishing, everyone does it. And hey, you put it out in the world it might just come right back to you!

enjoy the little things

So you didn’t get a huge holiday bonus like your sister who works in finance, but you know what you did do as a creative?? Probably saw more of the world, reflected, became a better you. Savor that. Please and thank you. Everyday I try to express the gratitude I have- it’ll make it easier to chat with Aunt Lucy and Uncle Pete from Nebraska…wine helps with that too.

lean on your friends

If you’re lucky, some of these holiday parties will include your best friends. If so, buddy up and the build each other up while in conversation. You bet your ass I will brag about my best friends, and they’ll do the same. This tactic works best in front of your relative//family friend who thinks you need a Plan B. You don’t. You just need a fabulous support system. Said nay-sayer is not one of them, but brush that off.

smile

Personally it’s hard for me not to, especially after a couple glass, but for those with resting bitch face try it. I’m not trying to get all puppies and rainbows over here, but I shit you not, throw on a smile and hopefully it’ll access a more positive mindset. If you go in the party with a frown and shit attitude it’s hard to have an amazing time despite all the cocktails you’ll thrown back. But–if you slap on a smile, take a deep breath and try to find the fun in sharing your projects/success/set backs/hopes with the world, you just get the best gift of all: a surprising amount of love, support and kind words you never knew your family and friends had to share. YOU just have to open yourself up to the opportunity.

And on that note, I’m stepping off the apple box and dropping the mic. Enjoy all the festivities this season!! Sending my love your way and many thanks for reading and supporting my career.

Merry Merry!!

xoxo Natalie