food for thought: a day to recharge

In-n-out

I rarely take breaks. The old adage “I’ll sleep when I’m dead” is rings verrrry near and dear to my heart. However, Tuesday night I was wiped. Like nothing sounded more appealing than sleeping all of Wednesday. My body was like:

Nat, you’ve been go go go since before Thanksgiving and you need a break. I’m tired. No, really, I’M LE TIRED.

Okkk okkk, I’ll sleep in and relax…

And let me tell you, it was hard to do! Around 10am I was responding to a text thread and my friend text yelled at me:

Why aren’t you actually sleeping in?

SLEEP

Fine. Yes. I just needed ‘to be’ knowing that my body and mind needed rest. My mind was naturally harder to turn quiet, I am VERY good at forming to-do lists. But I gave myself permission (with the help of friend’s permission) to let the ‘to-dos’ wait. That way I could attack the list from a charged state. No a semi-charged (charmed šŸ˜‰ ) one.

Taking those few more hours to stay in bed was fantastic. I didn’t sleep the entire time, but read and didn’t give a flying duck about doing work. And you know what? The world still turned, I still got an audition for the following day, and allowed the uneasiness of not doing anything slowly melt away.

Moving forward, I am going to give myself ONE FULL DAY to recharge. Just sleep, read, go to bed at an earlier than normal hour, check my phone less, and do something crafty. Whether that’s doodling, making a vision board, coloring, knitting, playing with play dough- it helped get me out of my diligent left brain and enjoy the moment a whole lot more.

Now, I give YOU permission. Take a full day off. And if you can’t give yourself a full day, try a few more hours in bed or read the book on your nightstand, or whatever. But forget about things *in a healthy way* for a few hours so you come back to those tasks ready to GO. Promise you’ll be in more of a flow.

Have a fantastic weekend.

Cheers!

NP

hey 27, it’s nice to meet you

It’s a blessing and a curse having a January birthday. Half of your friends are doing a dry January (one of my best friends always starts her post my bday-thank you!) and a lot people are worn out from the marathon that is the holiday season. However, I have this cool thing where I live the full calendar year as one age, and as the new year begins, so do I.

And man does turning 27 feel weird as fuck. It’s an age where my ego is like, “bitch you’re getting ollllld- you’re basically 30 and need to start settling, making babies, getting your series regular etc.” In reality, I know age is only a number and shouldn’t inhibit how you want to live your life. *Easier said than done with societal pressures and outside judgements but I have a solution for that, just hold tight for a moment. Let me give you a brief back story of 2017, aka the age of 26.

I set out at the beginning of last year to really open up my heart. To let myself be loved by others. The funny thing about me is that I’m excellent at giving love out, but when it comes to receiving and accepting that same love I have guards up to not get hurt. Which I realized was really silly. So, I wanted to open that heart UP. And boy did I– I went on dates, had some hookups, some ‘relationships’, a true relationship I thought would be more long-term and at the end of the year/beginning of the new, I am single.

So did I fail?!

Not one bit- I might not have the relationship I thought I’d go into the new year with, BUT I have something a whole lot better. More self worth, a lot more confidence and a motherfucking bounty of love from my friends and family.

I let them love me hard. Love, help me, listen to me in a way that was new. It was with an open heart from my end. And that is the true win of 26. Yes I booked some fun gigs and advanced my wine career, but at the core I really did open my heart.

There’s that saying that you have to put out in the world what you want to receive. And just like a rocket launched into space course corrects a million times before landing on the moon, this year of opening my heart happened. And happened in huge way. I let the universe work its magic (and yes I’m relating opening my heart to launching a rocket into space) and landed on the moon in a way I didn’t think was possible: single but feeling more loved than ever. My friends and family you are THE BEST. Words cannot express my gratitude for you, but if you’re reading this know that I would hand you my last LaCroix/first-bite my food/shower you with kisses and hugs.

Now back to that *! With opening my heart last year I became a lot more self-conscious. Shit got vulnerable and scary. I gave a lot more fucks what some people thought, but in areas of life that their opinion shouldn’t matter one iota. Moral of the story and what y’all should practice: GIVE LESS DUCKS!! Not a typo (and not that I don’t love the power of a well placed fuck) but ducks keep it a little lighter. Easier to take yourself seriously enough, but not so seriously that your friends start to worry.

So here’s the 2018 (the age of 27) where I aim to:

  • GIVE LESS DUCKS ABOUT THE OPINIONS AND THOUGHTS OF OTHERS (as in always listen to friends, but give up the need to please them and let go of the possible judgement)
  • PRACTICE ‘I AM FULL OF ABUNDANCE’ AS A MANTRA (as in knowing my life is full of wonderful things and putting out that energy to attract more abundant opportunities)
  • THINK-WHAT GOES UP CAN GO HIGHER (as in trying to think of the hope for theĀ best possible outcomeĀ instead of the worst- why not put it out there? I promise you’re strong enough to handle the worst, so why not put the best shit out there to the good old universe?!)
  • PURSUE WHAT’S MAKING MY EYES LIGHT UP (as in, yes I can start do a wine 101 show and do a podcast and keep acting in theĀ S is for RevengeĀ because it fulfills me- try to do less of what drains you and aim to find the things that make your eyes light up and keep at it!)
  • SMILE MORE (as in spread the love to more strangers, keep my opening up my heart!!)

 

Happy New Year all, may your wine glasses always be half full (or completely full) and your hearts OPEN!

 

xxNP

making “me” time

And just like that, it’s the first day of Spring!

Growing up I learned that Spring was all about rebirth; plants and animals coming out of hibernation as the frost melted away into sunshine and warmer weather.

blooms at Lake Elsinore

And while warmer weather might not be there for everyone (just come visit Southern California to get your dose!) there are hints of Springtime popping up everywhere:

ps loving the portrait feature on the iPhone 7!

…Like poppies! Popping up (can’t help myself!) throughout the parks in California. Known as a “super bloom”, the wildflowers are extra happy and vibrant this year because of all the rain we got during winter–see we really did have seasons this year!

..We also “sprung forward” so the days are feeling longer and the nighttime slump comes later.

…There are lots of “spring cleaning” ads. Having been in my new space for a little over a month, I’m taking the time to clear the clutter and get rid of excess stuff I haven’t touched in months.

…It’s March Madness! My Dad is in his, damn I can’t even remember how long he’s run it, but he’s the ring leader (call him the “commish”) of a big NCAA basketball tournament pool. His emails bring me joy everyday. It also helps that my alma mater, UNC, is still in the running and Villanova (last year’s champs who beat us) are already out. YES!

…Pastel colors are everywhere! StoresĀ are gearing up for Easter (hello Reese’s and Cadbury chocolate eggs!) and flowers are blooming.

wildflower cluster

So back to flowers and “me time”. Over the weekend, I decided to drive out solo to Lake Elsinore and see the colorful blooms. Man, did I feel like I was in Oz (not just how colorful, but lotssss of other people had the same idea).

cactus meet flowers

Wanting some time with little human interaction to reflect, soak up the sun and take some pics, I took a slightly steeper path, made it to the top and spread out my things.

alllll by myself (and loving it!)

I CAN’T TELL YOU HOW IMPORTANT THIS IS. For everyone!!!! Making time for yourself-even if it’s just 15 minutes and at your kitchen table- it is so vital to staying grounded. For re-centering, rebirth (hey, hey, Spring connection) and refocusing on you. What brings you happiness and what you need to let go. I’ll write more on this later in the week and the steps I take, so look out.

sunny selfies

In the mean time, on the first day of Spring. I dare you to take some time for yourself. JUST FOR YOU. Because at the end of the day- even with girlfriends, boyfriends, moms, dads, spouses, family, coworkers, etc. IfĀ you aren’t making yourself whole and happy it’s going to make it damn challenging for the rest of your circle to bring you that fullness. Find it in yourself. I promise it’s there.

You can start small and:

…buy yourself flowers

…get whipped cream on your coffee

…read the comics AND the sports section from a real newspaper

…sit an extra 5 minutes in your car to listen to your favorite song (again)

…take a walk around your block during your lunch break, or when you’re home from work

…smile

…stay longer post workout to stretch a little deeper or dip into the sauna if that’s available.

Whatever you choose do it forĀ you!

Wishing everyone a great start to their week. Let me know how you take your “me time” in the comments.

xo N

why i marched

photo c/o Sophie Kuller

Because I couldn’t sit at home

For my future daughter and son

Because my female body shouldn’t be as regulatedĀ as GUNS

*nasty women unite*

Because there’s a massive wage gap that still exists, especially seen in Hollywood

Because I stand with Planned Parenthood

Because every woman has the right to choose what’s best for her life

*love is love*

Because it’s not ok to be slut shamed

To know that we’re not fighting this alone

Because coming together is the first step in a longer narrative

*girls just wanna have fun-damental rights*

To build bridges, not walls

Because things still aren’t EQUAL across the board

Because there’s strength in numbers

*pussy power*

To feel empowered

To defend and advance human rights world wide

To show there is a peaceful way to fight

*free the nipple*

To open our hearts and raise our fists

To help the broken hearts make art

Because the US sets world wide examples

*and while we’re at it, fuck that dog movie too*

Because this is a marathon, not a sprint–here’s some next moves

Because labels shouldn’t hold us back

For what Meryl said

*my body, my choice*

Because there’s a double standard

For the women and men who’ve already dedicated their lives to equality, and to inspire future ladies and gentlemen to do so

For my dear friends, mother, grandmothers, gay friends, straight friends, new friends, old friends, teachers, male friends and all the people I love- this was about equality and defending our human rights.

*love* NASTY-IER NAT